A very old and widely used idea of "woman - female", whose destination
(either sacred or vulgar-materialist, depending on the circumstances) is only
to take care of the family nest, has been speculated upon across centuries
under different sauce; but in fact it followed the same goal - to shut
woman's mouth and not to permit her take part in very important decision
The syndrome of the "hatching hen" is a consequence of patriarchal mentality
that continues to be on the surface, although the piles it stands on have
rotted long time ago. Today we live in a very "socialized" world where the
problems of an individual are closely interwoven with those of the family in
the canvas of social life, the relations between the individual, the family
and the society being very complex. Thus, we cannot indoor ourselves as in
old times, ignoring everything around us, in hope that they will not affect
in any way our existence. The greatest part of problems we are facing are
generally special cases of extensive social problems.
However, in spite of this reality that we cannot escape, there are persons
interested in enlivening this syndrome of "hatching hen", taking it out of
grandmother's chest full of old and unfashionable things, polishing and
dusting it, to present it in the most attractive way: "Come on, ladies, try
it on, may be it can fit you? If you feel a bit uncomfortable, we can fix it
for you. Oh, you would like to prove yourselves as personalities, to stand
out, to shine... Very well!, you can put your evening dresses on, a little
bit of make up on your physiognomy, some perfume under armpits and ... that's
it! You come at a reception, at a charity concert at a Forum ... God knows
what about, and you hit the big time! Let them know that we have a cream of
the crop, a luxurious society not less important than in civilized countries.
But God forbid interfering in Politics! Do we really need a woman-minister
or, even worse, a president? Should a female be a leader to us, women? Wow!
What for? If this one is clever enough, let her take care of her family, her
husband and children, the household. We shall see then what she can do! And
if she wants to be a social swindler - here you go! An evening dress, a bit
of make up, etc. Are there social problems that need to be salved? Do
alcoholism, narkomany, prostitution increase? Is there great misery and
poverty? Let those who know these problems salve them! Get this rubbish out
of your head and be women, for God's sake!"
This is the approximate philosophy of life we are offered to accept,
egoistic, indifferent, impossible, full of vanity and envy. And the woman-
female is the central leading actor in this poor drama. Indeed, the woman-
female (as well as the man-male) is a natural and widely spread phenomenon.
Nearly every woman has a family, or al least children, so she has some
special qualities that attracts the opposite sex's attention. Feminine
charisma is of a wide variety, but very often ugly women also have happy
families. The secret of this mystery lays, as I think, in the fact that
feminine charm is, in most cases, compensated by other human qualities,
seldom valuable and attractive. An egoistic, capricious beauty, which lacks
intellect, usually fails in private life, even if initially, due to this
charisma, it had a great success.
Thus, the epithet "Female" is not just an object of fame, nor of shame. It is
just a reality. It is true that in a man's world charisma is a priority in
the perpetual fight for a place under the sun. Women usually use this weapon
as much as they can handle it by way of respecting (or not) some moral norms
that can constitute an impediment to its regular use. But what a strange
thing! Most of women who used their beauty and femininity to make a carrier,
other qualities being less appreciated by men, later are trying to
demonstrate that they are more than just a woman-female, the fact that they
are human personalities, exceptionally talented and intellectually gifted.
Making from sexuality an object of pride is characteristic to those women
whose soul is empty - a Ciciolio, a Madonna, "professional" prostitutes,
pornographic stars, sometimes models. Accordingly, not every man makes an
object of pride out of their masculinity. Even Schwartznegger, the symbol of
American masculinity wants to show to the large public that, in spite of
physical force and manhood, he also has some other qualities.
Obviously, the person on the evolutionary way has stepped through a certain
biological barrier, and aspires to become something better than simply a
biological essence. The nature was generous with the person in many respects,
but excessive sexuality he has been endowered with has already played its
role in the fight for living of the species, and became a brake on his way to
perfection. Columns of processions on which flag it is written something like
"Go women-female!" or "Go Man-male!" lead us to a total spiritual failure.
It can seem a paradox, but the interest for sexuality, this incontestable
attraction for human being, this field of an increased interest is used as a
weapon to fight for the politicization of the society, a useful tool in hands
of clever politicians that would like to lead peoples without being publicly
disturbed. In the civilized countries people are not hungry any more, they
don't care for a piece of bred, so sexuality is there the "primary instinct"
that can serve as a bait to withdraw people from socio-political life.
Obviously, politicians' guild is not interested in politicizing the society -
the more apolitical the society is, the easier the concurrence among them.
In our small country, with famished and undressed people, elegant vices are
less interesting to the public. That's why, such a cashed argument as: "take
care of your stomach and do not interfere with the politics" is still
efficient and up-to-date. This argument is addressed to women as well as to
men, is simple, accessible and has no moral or religious contradictions, the
fact that essentially increases its efficiency. The idea of "woman-female" is
used with a very well defined political aim: to transform feminine electorate
into an indolent, obedient, easily manipulated mass. Economic disaster in our
country continues to keep us in the trap of everyday problems, which we can
escape of only by way of progress. But if we detach form the socio-political
life consolidating all the efforts to salve only personal problems, we will
have very much to wait. More than that - we could not salve our personal
problems efficiently, because in the majority of cases these merge with large